Community Someday
Related Expert Plans
Similar Somedayers
Proximity | Achieved | Using Plan
img
img
Photos/Videos (1)
Open Invite
img
img
• • • •
Post an Open Invitation Close
When you post an Open Invitation we automatically display your posting to other users that have a similar Someday and may be interested in connecting with you.
search
1 Nudges9 Cheers
Someday I'm going to:
love (again).
love (again). by: Foster
This may seem like a lot of different things to a lot of different people, but it`s a growing goal and concern of mine in life.
Whether for an individual, a specific group, or more generally, this is another characteristic I`d like to cultivate.
This is my plan | 80%
Original plan by: Foster
Rating
  • img_ i guess if it were as easy as making a step by step plan and carrying it out... well, i still haven`t tried that before, but i just think it`s a little more dynamic a goal, and not quite as linear as my plan would make it, but i guess i could try some general guidelines; feel free to challenge them. from what i`ve heard, the first step is "getting over" past hurts or issues with the word, idea, or experiences that resulted in one`s making a concerted effort to try to do what many people don`t feel at all forced in achieving. i`ve had difficulties there as i`ve preferred trying to assimilate the past and forgive without forgetting, which has been rough and slow-going. still the acknowledgment of needing to "move on" in some manner is recognized, so we`ll call that step one: move on. (difficulty varies.) i`m getting there.
    Step 1: I guess if it were as easy as making a step by step plan and carrying it out... well, I still haven`t tried that before, but I just think it`s a little more dynamic a goal, and not quite as linear as my plan would make it, but I guess I could try some general guidelines; feel free to challenge them.

    From what I`ve heard, the first step is "getting over" past hurts or issues with the word, idea, or experiences that resulted in one`s making a concerted effort to try to do what many people don`t feel at all forced in achieving. I`ve had difficulties there as I`ve preferred trying to assimilate the past and forgive without forgetting, which has been rough and slow-going. Still the acknowledgment of needing to "move on" in some manner is recognized, so we`ll call that step one:

    Move on. (Difficulty varies.)

    I`m getting there.    5
  • img_ i guess after (whilst) moving on, it`s important to take inventory of sorts. love is a catalyst; it`s hard to go through it unchanged, and if one has passed through it and emerged on the other side, chances are, it`s not without having paid a particular toll, picking up some other baggage along the way, some of which are doubtless treasures one is better off cherishing, and it`s important to take some time and just be in order to figure out who one has become. i`m introverted and introspective by nature so this is easier for me than the next step, still before getting to that it`s vital to, as the ancients have said: "know thyself". (variable difficulty?) check. (for the most part... i guess this is somewhat on-going.)
    Step 2: I guess after (whilst) moving on, it`s important to take inventory of sorts. Love is a catalyst; it`s hard to go through it unchanged, and if one has passed through it and emerged on the other side, chances are, it`s not without having paid a particular toll, picking up some other baggage along the way, some of which are doubtless treasures one is better off cherishing, and it`s important to take some time and just be in order to figure out who one has become.

    I`m introverted and introspective by nature so this is easier for me than the next step, still before getting to that it`s vital to, as the ancients have said:

    "Know thyself". (Variable difficulty?)

    Check. (For the most part... I guess this is somewhat on-going.)    3
  • img_ get out there! this shouldn`t be too much of a challenge unless one knows him/herself to be challenged by such. i`m just not a fan of socializing with strangers. it could all be part and parcel of the cause and effect cycle this goal revolves around, but even casually, i find excessive inter-personal interactions taxing to some degree. it takes effort. not for all, some are invigorated by social gatherings, meeting new people, and rubbing elbows with strangers. i`m trying to expand and extend my boundaries, at least casually, through less imposing forms of communique, in which i include this and similar endeavors. there are plenty of methods and means available in this day and age for all sorts. i`m taking small, precautionary steps, risking little, through low-connectivity relationships. safety first. (difficulty measured according to personal sliding scale.)
    Step 3: Get out there!

    This shouldn`t be too much of a challenge unless one knows him/herself to be challenged by such. I`m just not a fan of socializing with strangers. It could all be part and parcel of the cause and effect cycle this goal revolves around, but even casually, I find excessive inter-personal interactions taxing to some degree. It takes effort. Not for all, some are invigorated by social gatherings, meeting new people, and rubbing elbows with strangers.

    I`m trying to expand and extend my boundaries, at least casually, through less imposing forms of communique, in which I include this and similar endeavors. There are plenty of methods and means available in this day and age for all sorts. I`m taking small, precautionary steps, risking little, through low-connectivity relationships. Safety first.

    (Difficulty measured according to personal sliding scale.)    4
  • img_i like minimal steps. so i`ll conclude with this last one, which leaves gaping holes and vacuous spaces in the methodology for the endeavor i set out to plan, but that`s my understanding of the subject matter at hand. anyhow, in successfully navigating through the previous three phases (i hesitate to call any a step) i think it boils down to one final risk, one act, and that is for one to choose. to some degree one must choose to love again. one has to allow his/herself to open up and it is, at least in some visceral sense, a decision to make, to allow an opportunity to experience the pleasures that love holds, because coupled with those pleasures is the capacity to suffer. one must be willing, not wanting, but certainly willing, to hurt, if they are to be susceptible to love in all its splendor. i`ve heard it said that none will hurt one more than the one one loves the most. like i first posited, this is neither linear nor complete by any standard or regard, but it`s here because it`s a loosely outlined goal of mine, in a number of permutations, open for discussion, challenge and company should one so... choose. (difficulty? ha! you decide...) pending.
    Step 4: I like minimal steps. So I`ll conclude with this last one, which leaves gaping holes and vacuous spaces in the methodology for the endeavor I set out to plan, but that`s my understanding of the subject matter at hand. Anyhow, in successfully navigating through the previous three phases (I hesitate to call any a step) I think it boils down to one final risk, one act, and that is for one to choose.

    To some degree one must choose to love again. One has to allow his/herself to open up and it is, at least in some visceral sense, a decision to make, to allow an opportunity to experience the pleasures that love holds, because coupled with those pleasures is the capacity to suffer. One must be willing, not wanting, but certainly willing, to hurt, if they are to be susceptible to love in all its splendor. I`ve heard it said that none will hurt one more than the one one loves the most.

    Like I first posited, this is neither linear nor complete by any standard or regard, but it`s here because it`s a loosely outlined goal of mine, in a number of permutations, open for discussion, challenge and company should one so...

    Choose. (Difficulty? Ha! You decide...)

    Pending.    3
Related Videos
img
img
Comments
A4S4L4
A4S4L4(990 Days ago)Came across your Someday and just wanted to say how much I can empathize with the concept of "forgiving without forgetting." That`s an interesting description. I think, at least in my experiences, it`s virtually impossible to forget, but moving on and letting go are key and so freeing once you do reach that point.
You`re right, though, the difficulty level definitely varies.Flag as Inappropriate
liviaorellana
liviaorellana(968 Days ago)I believe *Love* happens when you are ready to let it in (again)
:-)Flag as Inappropriate
kaytina
kaytina(872 Days ago)I`m a very shy and introvertive person also. The thing that helps me through is knowing that I`d rather take the chance of letting someone in and (maybe) getting hurt than be "safe" and never even allowing the possibility of sharing something special with someone who can be amazing. I`d rather take the risk than live with the regrets.Flag as Inappropriate
JackieG
JackieG(848 Days ago)Good luck...ur so very close.This poem inspires me when I think about love and risks.

The Dilemma - Author Unknown
"To laugh is to risk appearing a fool.
To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.
To reach out for another is to risk involvement.
To expose feelings is to risk rejection.
To place your dreams before the crowd is to risk ridicule.
To love is to risk not being loved in return.
To go forward in the face of overwhelming odds is to risk failure.

But risks must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.
The person who risks nothing does nothing, has nothing, is nothing. He may avoid suffering and sorrow, but he cannot learn, feel, change, grow, or love. Only a person who risks is free."Flag as Inappropriate
rachelsterne
rachelsterne(732 Days ago)Good luck! So close - you can do it.Flag as Inappropriate
jslsurf
jslsurf(330 Days ago)Hey, I just took a look at this. I see that it`s been over a year since anybody commented, and I`m wondering how you are doing. I`m in the final stages of getting divorced. It`s a year-long ending to a bad relationship. We dated for three years, lived together for two, and were married for just under three. I`ve spent a lot of time dissecting my relationship and talking to other people who have been married, both happily and unhappily, and I`ve learned two things. One, as the fine print says, "Individual results may vary." Two, if a relationship is so damn difficult, it`s not probably not a good relationship.

I look at your steps, and it`s all so angsty! Why would you do this to yourself? Love should be wonderful. Love should be fun. Yeah, it`s work, and yeah it hurts sometimes, but if it feels too much like you`re sleeping with the enemy, then don`t do it! Don`t waste time on drama and head cases. If you disengage from the bad relationships, eventually you`ll meet somebody with whom you feel natural. Things will just click. You won`t have to compromise who you are, or climb the highest mountain or swim the widest ocean. You`ll just feel good together 95% of the time. It may take a long time, but it will happen eventually. Just don`t be stuck in a heart-breaking romance when the real thing comes along.Flag as Inappropriate
jslsurf
jslsurf(212 Days ago)How`s it going, man? I`m totally in love with a new woman. Didn`t think it would ever happen to me again. You can do this, Foster!Flag as Inappropriate
img
img
• • • •
Copy This Plan Close
Copy This Plan to a New Someday
If you don't have an existing Someday to copy this to, click below to add this Plan to a new Someday. Copy This Plan to an Existing Someday
Select an existing Someday to which you'd like to copy this Plan.
• • • •
Contact Me Close
Subject
Contact Message
search
• • • •
Drag & Drop Step Close
Rating
  • img_ i guess if it were as easy as making a step by step plan and carrying it out... well, i still haven`t tried that before, but i just think it`s a little more dynamic a goal, and not quite as linear as my plan would make it, but i guess i could try some general guidelines; feel free to challenge them. from what i`ve heard, the first step is "getting over" past hurts or issues with the word, idea, or experiences that resulted in one`s making a concerted effort to try to do what many people don`t feel at all forced in achieving. i`ve had difficulties there as i`ve preferred trying to assimilate the past and forgive without forgetting, which has been rough and slow-going. still the acknowledgment of needing to "move on" in some manner is recognized, so we`ll call that step one: move on. (difficulty varies.) i`m getting there.
    Step 1: I guess if it were as easy as making a step by step plan and carrying it out... well, I still haven`t tried that before, but I just think it`s a little more dynamic a goal, and not quite as linear as my plan would make it, but I guess I could try some general guidelines; feel free to challenge them.

    From what I`ve heard, the first step is "getting over" past hurts or issues with the word, idea, or experiences that resulted in one`s making a concerted effort to try to do what many people don`t feel at all forced in achieving. I`ve had difficulties there as I`ve preferred trying to assimilate the past and forgive without forgetting, which has been rough and slow-going. Still the acknowledgment of needing to "move on" in some manner is recognized, so we`ll call that step one:

    Move on. (Difficulty varies.)

    I`m getting there.    5
  • img_ i guess after (whilst) moving on, it`s important to take inventory of sorts. love is a catalyst; it`s hard to go through it unchanged, and if one has passed through it and emerged on the other side, chances are, it`s not without having paid a particular toll, picking up some other baggage along the way, some of which are doubtless treasures one is better off cherishing, and it`s important to take some time and just be in order to figure out who one has become. i`m introverted and introspective by nature so this is easier for me than the next step, still before getting to that it`s vital to, as the ancients have said: "know thyself". (variable difficulty?) check. (for the most part... i guess this is somewhat on-going.)
    Step 2: I guess after (whilst) moving on, it`s important to take inventory of sorts. Love is a catalyst; it`s hard to go through it unchanged, and if one has passed through it and emerged on the other side, chances are, it`s not without having paid a particular toll, picking up some other baggage along the way, some of which are doubtless treasures one is better off cherishing, and it`s important to take some time and just be in order to figure out who one has become.

    I`m introverted and introspective by nature so this is easier for me than the next step, still before getting to that it`s vital to, as the ancients have said:

    "Know thyself". (Variable difficulty?)

    Check. (For the most part... I guess this is somewhat on-going.)    3
  • img_ get out there! this shouldn`t be too much of a challenge unless one knows him/herself to be challenged by such. i`m just not a fan of socializing with strangers. it could all be part and parcel of the cause and effect cycle this goal revolves around, but even casually, i find excessive inter-personal interactions taxing to some degree. it takes effort. not for all, some are invigorated by social gatherings, meeting new people, and rubbing elbows with strangers. i`m trying to expand and extend my boundaries, at least casually, through less imposing forms of communique, in which i include this and similar endeavors. there are plenty of methods and means available in this day and age for all sorts. i`m taking small, precautionary steps, risking little, through low-connectivity relationships. safety first. (difficulty measured according to personal sliding scale.)
    Step 3: Get out there!

    This shouldn`t be too much of a challenge unless one knows him/herself to be challenged by such. I`m just not a fan of socializing with strangers. It could all be part and parcel of the cause and effect cycle this goal revolves around, but even casually, I find excessive inter-personal interactions taxing to some degree. It takes effort. Not for all, some are invigorated by social gatherings, meeting new people, and rubbing elbows with strangers.

    I`m trying to expand and extend my boundaries, at least casually, through less imposing forms of communique, in which I include this and similar endeavors. There are plenty of methods and means available in this day and age for all sorts. I`m taking small, precautionary steps, risking little, through low-connectivity relationships. Safety first.

    (Difficulty measured according to personal sliding scale.)    4
  • img_i like minimal steps. so i`ll conclude with this last one, which leaves gaping holes and vacuous spaces in the methodology for the endeavor i set out to plan, but that`s my understanding of the subject matter at hand. anyhow, in successfully navigating through the previous three phases (i hesitate to call any a step) i think it boils down to one final risk, one act, and that is for one to choose. to some degree one must choose to love again. one has to allow his/herself to open up and it is, at least in some visceral sense, a decision to make, to allow an opportunity to experience the pleasures that love holds, because coupled with those pleasures is the capacity to suffer. one must be willing, not wanting, but certainly willing, to hurt, if they are to be susceptible to love in all its splendor. i`ve heard it said that none will hurt one more than the one one loves the most. like i first posited, this is neither linear nor complete by any standard or regard, but it`s here because it`s a loosely outlined goal of mine, in a number of permutations, open for discussion, challenge and company should one so... choose. (difficulty? ha! you decide...) pending.
    Step 4: I like minimal steps. So I`ll conclude with this last one, which leaves gaping holes and vacuous spaces in the methodology for the endeavor I set out to plan, but that`s my understanding of the subject matter at hand. Anyhow, in successfully navigating through the previous three phases (I hesitate to call any a step) I think it boils down to one final risk, one act, and that is for one to choose.

    To some degree one must choose to love again. One has to allow his/herself to open up and it is, at least in some visceral sense, a decision to make, to allow an opportunity to experience the pleasures that love holds, because coupled with those pleasures is the capacity to suffer. One must be willing, not wanting, but certainly willing, to hurt, if they are to be susceptible to love in all its splendor. I`ve heard it said that none will hurt one more than the one one loves the most.

    Like I first posited, this is neither linear nor complete by any standard or regard, but it`s here because it`s a loosely outlined goal of mine, in a number of permutations, open for discussion, challenge and company should one so...

    Choose. (Difficulty? Ha! You decide...)

    Pending.    3
• • • •
Close
CONGRATULATIONS!

You've achieved the
final step in your plan to:

love (again).

We'll be contacting you shortly to
interview you for the Spotlight On
section. By sharing your insights,
you'll inspire others and help them
benefit from your experience.

Job well done!

Click the icons below to broadcast
your accomplishment to family and
friends. Who knows, you might
just inspire them to chase their
own goals and dreams!

• • • •
Copy This Someday Close
Congratulations! You're taking the first step to reach your goal of love (again).. Please register to create an account and get started. It's free!
Login with Facebook Account
Login using Facebook
Already Registered? Login Now.
Forgot Password
Username:
Password:
Remember Me
search

• • • •
Login Close
Login using Facebook
Login using mySomeday account
Forgot Password
Username:
Password:
Remember Me
search
Haven't registered yet?
Take the first step towards making your dreams a reality!
• • • •
Forgot Password Close
E-mail:
search
• • • •
Be a Supporter Close
Message
search
• • • •
Send a Message Close
Subject Message
search
• • • •
Start a new Chit Chat Close
Select a Category: Title: Message:
search
• • • •
• • • •
What is mySomeday? Close

mySomeday is a goal-achievement platform designed to help you do all of the things necessary to turn your goals/dreams into reality.


  • Dream

    Make a visual list of your goals and state your intentions publicly.

  • What is mySomeday
    Plan

    Create actionable steps and then track your progress. Set reminders to stay focused.

  • What is mySomeday
    Achieve

    Share your story to inspire others to chase their dreams.

• • • •
What is mySomeday.com Close
mySomeday is designed to help you achieve those goals and dreams you’ve always said you’d get to ‘Someday’. It was born from a universal truth; everyone has ‘somedays’ they want to realize. It was designed to address a universal reality; life, laziness or lack of know-how makes achievement elusive. ‘Plans’ are meant to address this gap between truth and reality. Whether you build your own original Plan or copy and customize an existing Expert or Community Plan, this detailed roadmap is meant to get you from start to finish. With a Plan, you can track your progress, set reminders and deadlines, get feedback from the community and much more. In addition to Plans, we hope that all of the elements of the site and the social connections that spring up will take people from idea, to plan, to partnership, and, ultimately, to achievement.
Already Registered? Login Now.
Forgot Password
Username:
Password:
Remember Me
search
• • • •
Confirm Message Close
An email has been sent to the email address you provided. Please click on the link in that email to confirm the address and to continue building your profile.
• • • •
Confirm Message Close
An email has been sent to the email address you provided. Please click on the link in that email to confirm the address and to continue building your profile.